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  Your childhood meals.

  by greendawn in

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  do you have good memories from your childhood when it comes to the meals your mother served you?

  what did she give you to eat when you were ill?

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  Bumble Bee

  My dad liked to cook, but it was usually just the meat portion of the meal, and it was always really well done, I mean, dry, dry, dry meat. We almost always had meat, potatoes and a veg. Not much variations in the meals. It didn't matter if you didn't like something, you had to eat it. I always hated peas - and tried to do everything to avoid eating them. I remember sitting at the table for a long time after everyone else was done until I ate those dreaded peas. I found out later in life that I acutally have a food allergy with peas.

  My mom really didn't like to cook, and when I was old enough I did quite a lot of it. It was really hard after I got married to cook for two people instead of six. In the beginning we'd have leftovers for days! lol

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  I need to tell my hubby I don't want anything to do with this religion

  by Bumble Bee in

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  2. friends

  i've been "inactive" and a fader for over 10 years, it's been a slow and gradual transition.

  things have recently come to a head with my mother and sister over this and they are basically shunning me now.

  they've told me they don't want anything to do with me anymore because of this.

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  Thank you all for responding.

  Mastadon - your post really gives me hope~ thank you so much for sharing your experience with me.

  Skyman - I honestly don't think he'll go to the elders, he tries to avoid them as much as I do, and he's never been one to tattle so to speak.

  ithinkisee - I've talked to him here and there about going back to meetings, that I'd go with him if that's what he really wanted, because he once expressed thoughts about missing the meetings, but he's never got up on Sunday morning to go.

  M.J. Thanks for the link I will definately check it out.

  GBL - I'm not sure he's ready for that yet, I'll see how he responds when I talk to him.

  As to the shunning from my mom and sis - I never told them that I was never going to a meeting again, or leaving the religion. I was very careful that I would not say this to give them ammo for being DF'd. I told them when and why I started to stop going to meetings, and it was directly because of my parents, and the situation they/we were going through at the time. My dad was very ill (and it was giving my mom panic attacks), and she was calling for help, usually when we were dressed and ready to go out the door to the meeting. It got easier to just not get dressed and wait for her to call. That was just before the generation change that nobody could expain to me. It just snowballed from there. Then I got the internet! (There is so much more involved that I can't go into right now.)

  I've talked to my brother and sis in law, and they have no intention of acting the same way. Which is a huge relief! When I told him everything the two of them said, he said he wanted to vomit over the way they were behaving, especially after the talk that was at the hall on Sunday, how she sat and listened to it and took notes on being loving, not harbouring resentments, and being forgiving. At least I'm being honest and true to myself.

  Thanks again

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  I need to tell my hubby I don't want anything to do with this religion

  by Bumble Bee in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i've been "inactive" and a fader for over 10 years, it's been a slow and gradual transition.

  things have recently come to a head with my mother and sister over this and they are basically shunning me now.

  they've told me they don't want anything to do with me anymore because of this.

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  Bumble Bee

  I've been "inactive" and a fader for over 10 years, it's been a slow and gradual transition. Things have recently come to a head with my mother and sister over this and they are basically shunning me now. They've told me they don't want anything to do with me anymore because of this.

  This happened really fast, just over the last couple of days in fact. Now, I need to tell my hubby what's happened, and that I'm through with this religion, I don't want to even put up the pretence anymore. This may effect his family, I don't know, they live in another city and I don't see them too much.

  I'm not sure how to put things to him. He's been inactive longer than I have, hasn't gone to meetings longer than I have, but there is something there - he still views himself as a JW. He hasn't looked into the discrepancies, the UN scandal, the blood issue, the flip flops etc, etc, etc. Just stopped going when I did. I guess it was easier to stay at home with me than go alone.

  Now I have to sit down with him and have a heart to heart, and expain to him why my mom and sister will no longer be in our lives.

  Any suggestions?

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  Witnesses and their Sneak Attacks

  by justice for all in

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  2. friends

  i have faded these past few months and as of lately the witnesses keep bugging me at least once a week.

  ..coming to my house ''sneak attacks'' i havent been home and also they have been leaving messages on my phone.i'm afraid they are gonna set up a meeting for me to come to the hall for an explanation.what should i do if that happens?

  do i have to go if they call me in?

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  You could change your phone number, or get call display and don't answer if you see their number come up. Just let the machine take the call. I don't answer the door if I'm here alone, and we try and be out doing something on Saturday mornings (shopping etc).

  If they keep missing you - eventually they will give up.

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  Any Active JW's here!

  by isaias4u2nv in

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  just very simply any active jw's in here!!

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  Bumble Bee

  over 10 year fader here, although I can see things coming to a head in the very near future with my family.

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  Itemized List of Revisions in Daniel Book

  by Severus in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  this is from an email provided by a circuit overseer.

  i have added comments and context (from wt cd 2003) in red.. .

  "daniel's prophecy".

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  Bumble Bee

  This is great! I've been subtly planting "seeds" with my sis in law, and just yesterday she was talking about the Daniel book, and how she was enjoying it. I think I'll send her this info.

  Thanks!!!!

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  What's the very next event the JW's are waiting for?

  by JH in

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  i'm just wondering what next event the jw's are waiting for, or do they know?.

  i mean, god can't keep them in the dark, can he?

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  I still hear a number discussing the King of the North prophecy.

  When the Soviet collapsed the prophecy was shown to be a hoax, as that was supposed to be the last king of the north. Regardless, JWs are waiting to hear who the replacement is, as the King of the North is supposed to turn on them at the time of the end.

  This is what I understand they are waiting for as well. Recently, while cleaning, I came across a card my mom had given me the last time they had the special tract placement, the one they were only supposed to give to those that were sincerely interested, can't think of the name right now, but I have one in the cupboard somewhere. She explained how close to the end we were, and that there was only one more prophesy to be fulfilled, the King of the North. BB
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  Just want to gain insight on the overall attitude of most on here.

  by stillAwitness in

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  i am on here a lot.

  leafing through posts, taking the time out to read individuals' profiles, their topics.

  i like to gain insight, get perspective on what it is like to be "on the other side" i guess you can say.

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  Bumble Bee

  I've been a "fader" for over 10 years now. I knew for some time things were not "right" in the org, but had no idea what was wrong exactly. I had started my decline just before the new generation light came out. Then a few years later I found out about the NGO, then I got angry! At this point in my life I really want nothing to do with the Society, but unfortunately have to put on a bit of a front with family (and in-laws). I can see things maybe coming to a head with my family in the near future, and am not looking forward to it, all the wounds will be ripped open again.

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  The Unkindest Cut: Hateful Words from JWs that Show Their True Colours

  by Scully in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i decided to start this topic when ozziepost shared the experience of a bethel representative telling him and mrs. ozzie "and don't forget, we've got your children!

  it's important for us to hear these experiences and to share them with each other.

  it helps us tear down the mistaken beliefs that the incidents that happen to us are not isolated ones, but are in fact par for the course when one parts ways with the jws and wts.

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  That was a terrible thing for a so called "best" friend to say to you!

  That word "friend" is tossed out by JW's all the time.

  They have no idea what a real friend is.

  The fastest way to get DF'd is have a heart to heart talk with your so called "friend".

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  convention freaky memories

  by joelbear in

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  2. friends

  sucking on lifesavers to stay awake.

  watching families eat meals during the session.

  the smell.

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  I remember my parents sending me and my brother to bolt for the food lines the second the song was over.

  Feeling sick mid afternoon from those yummy subs at lunch

  Waiting for the new releases in long lines that everybody butted in in front of you - oh sorry were you waiting in line???

  Fighting my way through the crowds to get the heck out of there

  Trying really hard not to fall asleep, when my mother was sleeping beside me - she'd wake up and want to see the notes I've taken

  Checking out everybody else with the binoculars

  Wanting to sit with friends, but there was just a talk about kids sitting with their parents

  Getting soaked in the rain, sunburned the first day and being in pain for the other 3 days

  Watching the planes and the horses training at Woodbine Race Track

  I could go on and on

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